Children who have strong bonds with their families and school are least at risk of using alcohol and other drugs. Many of the things we can do to strengthen these bonds -- such as showing warmth and affection -- are based on common sense. You may find these ideas helpful in strengthening existing bonds -- and even creating new bonds with your children.

1. Be a good listener.

Let your children know they can always come to you with their problems. Show respect for your children's concerns. Establish eye contact with your child when he or she is talking to you. If you are reading or working on an activity, set it aside so your child will have your full attention. Offer encouragement to help your children share ideas and ask questions.

2. Show a sincere interest in your children's schoolwork and activities.

Find common interests to talk about relating to school. Ask your children to show you their schoolwork and proudly display their projects. Give them compliments and offer help when it's needed. Remember, your children may not excel in the same subjects you enjoyed in school -- allow them to find their own likes and dislikes.

3. Help your children set realistic goals.

Children are more likely to succeed when goals are short-term so they don't lose interest. The best goals are easy enough for them to accomplish, yet challenging enough so that they will grow. Praise your children for their efforts and avoid too much pressure. If your son is learning a musical instrument, for example, help him set a goal of practicing every day and comment on the improvement you notice. Don't demand that your children always be the best. Remember, we all have off days.

4. Set aside time just for your children.

Plan ahead so you can spend quality time with your children, especially on holidays and special occasions. Try to find opportunities to spend time alone with each child individually. If you're too busy or tired to spend time with your children, explain the reason and arrange another time.

5. Do things together as a family.

Look for family activities that don't involve watching television or spending money. There are lots of opportunities -- playing a game, reading a book, going for a bike ride, building or baking something. Many cost nothing, but the rewards are great. Keep in mind that regular family meetings are a good idea so you can talk over plans as well as any problems.

6. Give your child responsibilities around the house.

Assign each child specific tasks that will help increase his or her sense of responsibility. It might be taking out the garbage, setting the table or walking the dog. Even simple chores help develop a sense of teamwork and feelings of accomplishment.

7. Show affection often.

Don't assume your children know they are loved. Remember, a word, a smile or a hug from you can make a big difference. Children are never too old to be told that they are loved.

8. Develop your children's sense of well-being.

Encourage them to be active, both physically and mentally. This can be as simple as getting them outdoors away from the TV or reading a story together. Nurture your children's interests in new sports, hobbies and activities.

9. Teach decision-making and problem-solving skills.

10. Get to know your children's friends and friends' parents.

Call and introduce yourself. Stay in touch; share ideas and support. Communicate with other parents to make sure children's activities are always well supervised.